One of the hottest topics in the personal development world is that of motivation. What sparks it off? and how can we keep motivated in our daily lives? Very often, and quite rightly, motivation is closely associated with enthusiasm and goal-setting, or in broader terms knowing one’s purpose in life. Mmhh…big concept isn’t it?

As with any other bulky concept that has far-reaching implications,  the best way to understand it Рand ultimately make practical use of it Рis simplifying it and deconstructing it into easily replicable parts. For this matter I had a very good help from my 4 year old daughter.

Kaya springs out of bed every single morning with sparkling eyes beaming enthusiasm for her new day. Every day has some novelty and something new she will discover and look forward to. Her world is one big playground. The unknown is not a source of anxiety for her as in us adults but a space of possibilities were new wonderful things can come her way. Everything is a stimulus that impinges on her fresh mind.

On the other hand, the average adult mind is bogged down by a long list of things to attend to, unresolved issues, unkown variables and dull routine tasks which most of the time are managed by an overworked brain and a tired body.

So what are the constants in Kaya’s world that we can re-adopt? or perhaps what are the constants in us adults that we need to discard or re-engineer?

There are a lot very good practical tips and techniques on improving motivation but I will focus on 7 items that I have observed from Kaya or I sometimes find challenging in myself ūüôā

1. Don’t forget to Play: All work no fun dulls the mind & spirit. It’s certainly not on Kaya’s agenda. We have to appease the playful/childish part of our mind which desperately seeks leisure and fun instead of boring mundane tasks. Most of the time we shun it completely which puts us off balance and demotivates us.¬† Having the mind look forward for fun time whether in or out of our daily tasks will keep the motivation engine oiled.

2. Don’t stare at the unknown: Apathy is when we lose traction forward sometimes because we don’t see light (the goal) at the end of¬† our tunnel (the task or problem). The future is unknown to all of us. If you stare at it too long it may get you. It blacks out your vision and makes you lose the will to move on with your mission.

3. Remind yourself you are the director: I love watching or overhearing Kaya playing and directing roles in some tea party with her dolls and fluffy friends. It’s like she is the director of some movie in her head – “You sit here and you drink this or eat that”. The thing is that she feels part of the creative process – meaning that her plans and ideas are realized in her staged tea parties.¬†¬† Do you believe you are you your own creative director? (more…)

Motivation Lessons from a Four Year Old

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photo by Mara ~earth light~
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The notion of practicing compassion for other fellow humans has been with us since the beginning of time. After all, Man is a social creature in need of meaningful social connections in order to grow on all levels of his being.


The concept of compassion however has in recent times been appraised in value. Its importance is starting to be understood under the new light of a drastically changing world where people are getting more connected, economies collapse and new global crisis emerge.  Compassion is becoming increasingly tied to the future of humanity. In order for Humanity to keep the balance against the impounding waves of change we need to grow collectively in mind, awareness and in consciousness.  One essential ingredient for this growth is cultivating compassion and loving kindness


Compassion compels action and social change


“You know, there’s a lot of talk in this country about the federal deficit. But I think we should talk more about our empathy deficit — the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes; to see the world through the eyes of those who are different from us — the child who’s hungry, the steelworker who’s been laid-off, the family who lost the entire life they built together when the storm came to town. When you think like this — when you choose to broaden your ambit of concern and empathize with the plight of others, whether they are close friends or distant strangers — it becomes harder not to act; harder not to help.” Barack Obama

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Expanding consciousness through compassion & loving kindness

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goals22Knowing what I wanted in life had always been terribly hard for me. Of all the things that I always felt were not clicking in the right cog in my life, the lack of a clear mission faithfully accompanied by a complete absence of goal-setting skills, has always been the thing that irritated me most.

However, one thing I learned later on was that not having a clearly defined route plan, or rather not having a route in the first place, was not so much about lack of clarity or direction but had more to do about conflicting interests, unordered priorities and a lack of a simplified goal structure. Let me explain. (more…)

Putting Life Purpose in Sharper Focus: How I re-aligned Goals to my Mission

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